Black woman born beneath an angry star who nevertheless knows how fragile we are; that is not what I said. Since the last significant black man in my life was my late father who was also my incest perpetrator who beat me so badly I will have thoracic spondylitus for the rest of my life and had my body mutilated at a private Jewish Hospital in Paterson, NJ ( Barnert Memorial Hospital) (a right radical orchiectomy, I have not had any meaningful positive friendships with the men to whom you refer.