For what its worth, the way I obtained what you are seeking was by making lemon bars, separate thermos of caffeinated and decaf coffee, carrying bottled water for those non- coffee drinkers, inviting a bunch of people to conversation on a Saturday afternoon. The one person who showed up besides me has been a brother beloved since January 2021. One of the things we find humorous is how very heterosexual he is and how homosexual I am! Unfortunately, dating and or other mating apps are to burdened with unspoken expectations/ social constructs of sexual intimacy, in my opinion. Best wishes and joy for your journey!