Perhaps it would help if you supplied some specificity defining exactly who "WE" are in your closing sentence, "We can’t let the religious right win." Speaking as a gay black male incest survivor whose perpetrator father also allowed me/ arranged and paid for me to suffer through a right radical orchiectomy and the fact that I am a lifelong empowerer/supporter of women and the Equal Rights Amendment -- all women in the USA must unite to convince all the heterosexual males of all colors, cultures, and socioeconomic strata.