Well, @Dan Foster, before I attended seminary and had what we thought were a platonic gay couple pull the same “I’m dying of a terrible disease” scam, I would have agreed with you. “HE!” went on to marry another one of our house churches members, which dragged out the awkward/surreal nature of the whole thing. “HE!” was a Princeton graduate from a wealthy family; there was no ‘confessional’ or restorative relational justice. And they faded into the general population. Then this happens : https://medium.com/@vernon-nickerson-schoolcoach/how-i-discovered-kaiser-permanente-healthcare-system-are-masters-of-iatrogenic-medicine-an-m-h-w-f-cfb01f554aa . And no one I knew face-to-face responds . So SILENCE STILL = DEATH I CONCLUDE.